How you dress is just one way of teaching your nervous system whether it’s safe to be you or not.

I truly believe that everyone is capable of recognizing what clothing they love and combining it into an outfit in a way that pleases and supports them.. IF they can access that information within themselves..!

Unfortunately, many of us were trained as children that our opinions weren’t valid, our needs weren’t achievable, our wants weren’t possible, and our preferences weren’t welcome.

And now as adults we lack the programming to identify and defend our own opinions and (combined with our shadow) it prevents us from being able to adorn and display ourselves in a way that feels true and exciting and accurate.

This is why I created a specific form of style coaching that acts as a precursor to hiring a stylist.

If you don’t know who you are or you struggle to express a definitive Yes or No, a stylist is going to struggle to effectively help you dress as your most authentic self.

They will always create beautiful and flattering outfits, but if you don’t want to feel like you’re in a costume you’ll need to be able to tell a Yes from a No in your body, and defend it without self-abandoning.

The best part?

If you learn to do this with something as simple and low-consequence as clothing, you’ll notice the new programming has a profound effect on your ability to back yourself and express yourself in every other area of your life.

Imagine what life would be like if your nervous system truly believed that

Your opinions matter and you’re safe to voice them
Your feelings matter and you’re competent at processing and releasing them

Your needs matter and you know how to get them met

Your authentic self is welcome and you’re less exhausted from masking and coping with every new day

All of this is achievable with in-wardrobe coaching.

Here’s how it works

Your wardrobe is a microcosm – an aesthetic compilation of your priorities, limitations, and beliefs about yourself and your place in the world.

How it’s managed, what it’s comprised of, how it serves (or bullies) you, how well suited to you and your routine it is, and how it either stresses or buoys you are all indicators of deeper childhood programming that unconsciously controls your self-perception and progress.

Here’s what happens in a 2 hour in-wardrobe coaching call

Firstly, you show me your closet and I ask you a lot of questions about what’s in it and why. You’re going to answer to the best of your ability, and what information and opinions you can access with the vocabulary your various ego layers choose will show me what models of reality your system is operating within.

From there, we’re going to do some unpacking and I’m going to help you see the scaffolding of your life. Your current personality structure (who you’ve learned you had to be) followed by a more complete picture of who you really are and are trying to express.

After that we’re going to use some styling principles and methodologies to get you more in touch with how you actually want to dress, which will help you choose your pieces and combinations more accurately going forward, and we’ll also create a plan for you to tweak your dressing habits and choices so that they reinforce the identity you would need to live out your dreams in every other area of your life.

Illumination. Education. Direction.

It’s so easy to book your session - simply choose a time that suits your schedule.

In-wardrobe coaching

Sessions are conducted on Zoom so you’ll need to angle your laptop to face your closet.

Testimonials

Before working with Sarah, getting dressed was something I genuinely dreaded. Even the thought of trying to put together an outfit would stress me out, because it meant standing in front of the mirror getting increasingly frustrated, trying to figure out if something objectively "looked good" by mentally measuring against style rules I wasn't even sure I understood. Most days I just gave up and wore the exact same uniform: baggy sweater and leggings at home, jeans and a t-shirt in public. My closet was full of fun, colorful, dramatic pieces that I could never bring myself to wear - even some pieces that I bought because I loved them so much, but never even had the confidence to try on even once.

Then I had a wardrobe coaching session with Sarah. She identified the exact programming and beliefs that were getting in my way, and together we worked through them. There were a few major breakthroughs in that part alone, which helped me get ready to find my own style. And THAT happened when Sarah identified the 3 words that I could use as a guideline when putting together outfits. I've attempted to do this on my own before with minimal luck, but Sarah's superpower is that she can look beyond the aesthetics of the clothes I liked to identify the feelings beneath them, and so the style words she picked out were ones I never could have found myself - but they were SO spot on. Just as an experiment I used her guidelines to order a few unique and unusual pieces that caught my eye but that I would never have had the courage to order before, and it turns out I'm absolutely obsessed with them. The first Sarah-inspired order I made had me twirling around the house all day in glee.

What those words unlocked in practice has been kind of unbelievable. For my birthday I pulled out a going-out top I'd had for ages but never knew how to wear, one of those "aspirational" pieces that I just admired in the closet. I put it on, cycled through four or five bottoms in the span of a few minutes, and found a combination I loved - quickly, and without getting frustrated. The whole thing was emotionally neutral until I landed on the right outfit, at which point it felt AMAZING. Same thing with a plaid miniskirt I'd bought online because I loved the vibe, and then left in my closet because it felt too intimidating: I spotted it one morning, put it on, tried on a few tops until one clicked, and did a little shimmy dance in front of the mirror because it looked and felt so good. This is not something I have ever done before in my life.

Cleaning out my closet is also suddenly... easy? I used to agonize over every single piece because I couldn't quite tell whether I liked it or not. Now it's simple: why would I ever choose to wear something that feels boring and bleh (even if it's functional) when I have pieces I'm absolutely obsessed with?

And I've genuinely caught myself looking forward to getting dressed in the morning. (Yes, Looking FORWARD to it!) It feels like an opportunity to play and be creative and just have fun, which are not words I ever thought I'd associate with fashion. I'm getting compliments from people I know and from strangers, and I feel amazing.

If you had asked me a few months ago I would have been adamant that I do not experience enclothed cognition. But it turned out that it (for a number of reasons that Sarah identified) it just felt too emotionally risky to try to express myself that way. Now that I can, getting dressed is an extra source of joy in my day, every single day. I cannot express the difference this has made to my confidence, and, not to overstate this, but to my happiness levels. I'm so, so, so incredibly thankful to Sarah for helping me unlock this - it's been so much fun!

Growing up with a single mum and in a family that loved a good bargain hunt, I always found myself shopping the sales rack rather than buying pieces that actually suited my style and body. I had this belief that you could only wear ‘good’ or ‘going out’ clothes once because people would notice if you repeated an outfit… and no one wants to wear the same thing twice, right? So, shopping sales always felt justified and somehow less wasteful.

My session with Sarah completely unravelled that mindset… in the best possible way, and honestly in a way my soul needed. I realised I had been spending so much money on ‘bargain’ clothes simply because I could justify the sale price, not because I truly loved them or felt good in them. Since working with Sarah, I’ve realised I’m no longer the woman who needs to shop from clearance racks just because it feels safe. I don’t need to justify every dollar I spend, and I can buy pieces that genuinely suit who I am now.

Before, I would walk into my wardrobe and automatically grab gym clothes or something that kept me small and hidden. Usually a cheap throw-on dress because it was “comfortable.” Now, I’ve started building a wardrobe around my actual style words and the woman I’ve become. Elevated, feminine, natural and confident.

For the first time, I get excited pulling pieces out of my wardrobe and styling them together. I genuinely feel good when I walk out the door. I’ve even started using AI to help narrow down styling choices when I’m unsure, which has been such a fun part of the process.

And the biggest shift? I wore the same shirt twice last weekend because I loved it that much. I would NEVER have done that before. I styled it differently with new accessories and different pants for different events and times of the day, and I actually enjoyed thinking about what to pack and where I’d wear it.

I honestly feel like a whole new person in my wardrobe now. And for the first time, clearing out old pieces feels exciting because I know they’re making room for the elevated pieces that truly belong there.